Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Home and Hospitality

My first childhood friend was imaginary. Her name was Tracy and she was invisible. Tracy and I played together for years. She made me brave when I felt afraid, was my playmate when I needed a friend and always let me be first.

When my family and I moved to Collierville about 15 years ago, I started my search for a new friend. I was invited to a neighborhood Bunko group, and I thought this would be the perfect time and place. I would surely find a friend there. At the first Bunko, I looked at all the women and picked out a few "friend candidates." What a lot of these women had in common was a cute haircut, designer handbag, or stylish outfit. I thought surely one of these women would be my new friend. After getting to know these selected women, I soon found out that they were not the sweet person I was looking for in a friend. They were false friends, women who gossiped, didn't put their husbands and families first and, most of all, claimed to be wonderful Christians when their lifestyle proved otherwise. They were pretty on the outside, but ugly on the inside. So I kept searching.

Well, I finally did find the perfect friend. She was at the Bunco group with me on that first day, but I hadn't noticed her. She was very ordinary looking with reddish hair, simply dressed and somewhat on the plain side. I didn't choose her, but God sent her to me. My daughter was in school with her daughter and they had become friends. Through their friendship, we became friends. That was over 15 years and 4 moves across country ago. We don't see each other often, but we keep up through modern technology like Facebook and email. And when we do get to spend time together, it is like not a day has gone by. It is very true that beauty is on the inside. Just like a home. A home may not look perfect. It may not have the newest of everything, or designer colors. Your rug may not match your sofa. The drapes may be old or out of date fabric. But what truly matters is how people feel when they are welcomed inside. A house filled with love, laughter, family and friendship is much more important than one that is perfectly decorated. It is about warmth and hospitality. It is offering a glass of fresh lemonade to a neighbor who comes to the door. It is sharing a slice of pie with a friend. It is a pair of chairs that welcome friends to sit and stay a while. The most important thing is that people feel welcome when they enter your home. Feeling at home is much more important than having a perfect home.

A true friend is like a happy and welcoming home. It is what is in the heart of the friend and the home . . . . . .genuine love and hospitality.

Happy Decorating, Lisa

Photos over the years of my friend Lynn & our girls.


Miss Janice said...

This is soooo true! It's so hard to find a good, real friend as we get older. Isn't great that we can keep up with our friends through all the social networking venues! Love this post!!!

Lisa said...

Ditto! I met 5 wonderful women 20 years ago when each of our oldest children began first grade together. We've weathered divorces, grandchildren out of wedlock, disasterous marriages, life threatening cancer, surgeries and more together. These life challenges have proven to just make our friendships stronger. I don't know what I'd do without these girl friends. My husband has sat back and observed us and wishes he had friends as these. Friendship takes a lot of work just like a marriage.
We laugh together at the thoughts of the 5 of us as we age and what we'll look like and act like. We're like young kids when we're together.

Tina said...


Thanks for this post. I've been fretting over some things in my home lately and your post has made me realize that they are not as important as I thought. I'll get around to fixing what it is that bothers me, but in the meantime I will concentrate on making friends and family comfortabel when they visit. I know my best friend (for 40 years!) could care less if I don't have just the right pillows on my couch!!! Thanks again for this reminder of what is important in life!

Grandma Shauna said...

Love this post - It is so, so true!

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